آخر تحديث للصفحة الأحد, 22 كانون الثاني 2012
Birth control and how do parents perceive it
jouhina news.. Sarah Sharief- Los Angeles:
The misleading conflict of Sexual desire and the misinterpretation of its violation might lead to series social problems such as, (14 years old girl is pregnant, loss of virginity, suicidal attempts) all these problems might occur when education taken at schools lacks the necessarily knowledge about sex.
Different cultures around the world do not specifically understand the youth and their needs for many reasons, it is either parent consider themselves different generation, or maybe the kids are acting normal therefore no worries, or maybe the school itself is a very decent school therefore no need to increase awareness, and last the kids are safe. The missing link comes from the misunderstanding of what the youth is trying to tell us, and how the misleading parents are ignoring the whole subject. What they forget is that maybe they know what they are doing is wrong but too afraid to admit it for what it has judgment on the long run.
In addition to that, youth need support in any way, more likely we are all human being trying to understand the world in our own judgment rather than being told what to do before trying it. Without mistakes, no knowledge will occur. If more mistakes exist then definitely some guidance is needed for better understanding. The more facts are deliberately reinforced, the less mistakes youth deliver in society. The bond between parent and their child is unbreakable; they are role models for the youth. Therefore parents should understand the needs of their children by establishing a strategy to maintain trust and support in any way. That’s the support any child is looking for. Children are mortified by sexual discussion since teens who talk to their parents about sex are more likely to delay their first sexual encounter and to practice safe sex when they do become sexually active.
A research studied separately asking parents and children about Oral sex and birth control. The results were 40 % of adolescents had had intercourse before talking to their parents about safe sex, birth control or sexually transmitted diseases. More like 70% boys said they had not talked to their parents about birth control methods before having an intercourse.
In relation to birth control as it is discussed earlier, when the Church of Vatican has stuck steadfastly to its opposition to condoms despite the Aids crisis and widespread use of contraceptives by Catholics around the world, as long as the church holds out, it can depict itself as bravely championing the truth against the pressure of secular society. To reverse positions now would make past opposition to condoms look backward. The church would lose a good deal of face such a reversal. The church was avoiding the use of Condom for birth control and to avoid diseases since it will lead to rapidly sexual practices.
Given the distance that secular culture has put between itself and the Catholic Church on the condom issue, it might look as though the pope is due for a change of policy. But there’s another factor in the decision whether to accept condoms population. The Catholic Church is struggling in South America and Africa against evangelical Christianity and Islam, both of which threaten to reduce the Church’s share of the population. Softening opposition to contraception might lead to lower birth rate and to a smaller generation of future Catholics.
In alliance with the Church perspective, a lot of parents think about sex talks as an ongoing dialogue, rather than one uncomfortable discussion that they must cross off their list. And they should keep in mind that they’ve probably internalized the same discomfort and avoidance that their own parents displayed in talking about sex talks needn’t be so fraught. Experts are also say that parents should discuss certain issues with their children at age-appropriate times, and that the discussions should evolve as children mature ‘’ A 12-year- old will look at sex very differently than a 15 years old says.
On the other hand, the conversation should focus on what the child is capable of absorbing and what the child asks about. Parents should take advantage of every excuse to broach the difficult subject. Avoiding the engagement of the subject might encounter few misleading acts.
If we look at the cultures perspectives, most cultures have specific values some of the families are still reinforcing and believing in it, while others are being modern and don’t care for the society’s judgments.
Of course if differs from society to another and from country to another, for instance, in Middle- Eastern society it’s well known that sex talk is forbidden between parents and children, and families are more conservative therefore the whole idea about sex knowledge should be un-questioned until marriage comes along and then all interpretation will follow up.
The urge for marriage comes from this perspective that when society doesn’t allow youth to understand their human nature and physical needs, then the only way to know this mysterious conception is by getting married in early age.
Most commonly used is when a girl reaches her puberty, she‘s allowed to be married (applied in Saudi’s culture), while the common age for marriage in (Syrian culture) is when the girl reaches 18, the girl has a right to choose but her needs and desires might lead her to have wrong choices that eventually will lead her to divorce later on. While in other Arabic cultures such as (Egypt) the common age for marriage is between 17- 19 years old.
In general cases some girls have intercourse while she is single discretely without the family’s knowledge till that day comes where she has to get married. From there, she tries to cover her shame with a surgery. Most Arabs do that not out of religious perspectives, rather than for society’s perspectives and to cover the dignity of her family.
Again personally speaking, the link between parents and their children is the most effective part in their children’s lives. From here, parents should take advantage in speaking to their children logically rather than religiously. They should take their children’s perspectives with support rather than anger. We must acknowledge the fact that each generation has different needs and perspectives.